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Resilience for people who want to change the world

originally published: November 24, 2016

What is resilience?
Resilience is also translated as resilience, flexibility or resilience.

I myself like to explain resilience with pictures, such as:
Resilience - or - The art of riding the waves of life.

Increasing your resilience is about using your skills, resources and traits in such a way, to get to know them anew or to combine them anew, so that you can deal with stress more easily and playfully.

Because as a change maker, you are often confronted with reaching your limits, because what you do to bring about change you are changing or breaking boundaries at the same time. And the environment doesn't always respond positively to it. That can be very demanding, sometimes overwhelming.

Or your own ambition is so great that you juggle too many projects at once. Or the feeling of fighting windmills leads to exhaustion and resignation. In addition, like many people who are emotionally very closely connected to their work, you probably find it difficult to switch off after work and “let five people just be”.

In such (challenging) challenging life circumstances, in my experience, it is about getting to know yourself and your patterns and taking good care of yourself in order to be able to keep your balance as well as possible and to be in your own strength.

Resilience can be trained!

I like to compare resilience to a tool case. Imagine a large, colorful box in which exercises from positive psychology, stress research, NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), belief work, constellation work, work with boundaries and personality typologies are combined. Not everything helps everyone and so it's about filling your own resilience tool case with tools that are right for you.

Why doesn't everything fit everyone? Here are a few simple examples:

Maybe you are the kind of person who overwhelms yourself - you set yourself benchmarks that are too high, juggle a few projects too much and need a lot of variety? Or do you rather suffer from listlessness, cannot motivate yourself or do not structure yourself properly?

How you tick and function depends on many factors, including your personality type, your characteristics and, of course, physical conditions. It's about finding the mix of drive and calm that is exactly right for you.

Be the change you want to see in the world

Resilience training always starts with yourself. The point is that you get to know your own needs, desires and your structure and then derive the steps that are central to you, which can be easily integrated into your everyday life. Resilience begins when you learn to set clear boundaries, align yourself, reflect on your strengths, when you go your very own path in life. Of course, it is always a challenge to successfully reconcile work, vocation and private life - I would like to invite you to do so in a playful way.

I pursue a preventive and salutogenic approach - i.e. very simply, stick with it and enjoy the change instead of only starting when it really hurts or you have already ended up in complete exhaustion.

Ultimately, the only constant in life is constant change, even if we don't always want to admit it. I would like to invite you to look at your own beliefs, evaluation mechanisms and your everyday structure with ease and to learn to deal with them again and again.

Don't just delete it when there's a fire

I developed the resilience cloverleaf from dealing with the various scientific topics and working with my clients in teams and individual coaching.

In my opinion, it depicts the central aspects for a healthy, happy and balanced life: vision & values, (self-) leadership, success & failure as well as expression & encounter.

I want to invite you...

  • to discover your vision clearly within you. Then you can trust and be able to bring out this compass in you again and again. In this way you can light the way for yourself and really live your values ​​even in stormy times of life.
  • To develop (self) leadership for you alone and also in group contexts as a central quality, to refine it and to adapt it depending on the context. The better you know yourself, the better you can guide yourself and others.
  • Recognizing failure as an inevitable part of life. Because we all fail, even if we mostly share the success and announce it on various social media channels and cover up the pain. Nevertheless, deep learning experiences are often the fruits of mastering difficult life circumstances.
  • Discovering encounters as a creative exchange between people. Encounters always take place between people. That is why it is so important to get to know your own expression (and the pain and fear associated with it) when meeting other people.

For me, the core of increasing resilience is with a thirst for discovery and adventure and the joy of finding out about your own patterns. You yourself are the solution to your problems. Set off to discover and live the greatest and most radiant version of yourself and - the inevitable ups and downs - ride the waves of everyday life more easily and effortlessly.

about the author

Bele accompanies people in change processes through resilience coaching and training.

She studied medicine, education, and health economics and, both professionally and privately, reached limits early in her life that challenged her resilience. (Self-) leadership was and is a central theme. This gave rise to the desire to make resistance and flexibility in everyday life accessible to others.

You can find more information about her work at www.bele-irle.de.