How does a father protect his daughter?

Fathers and their daughters - archaic protective instincts come to light

Actually, the gender of a child shouldn't play too much of a role in the upbringing - at least not when they are babies. Nevertheless, fathers have protective instincts towards their daughters that one would not have thought possible - and that cannot be observed in sons. Fathers want to protect their daughters - from men. It sits deep inside us men and this instinct wakes up very early.

They do not believe me? Here are a few examples that I have seen myself.

Years ago - I haven't had any children - I went to see a good friend. I played enthusiastically with his 10-month-old daughter, who clearly liked it and laughed and romped around with me. My friend was ambivalent about his feelings. On the one hand he thought it was great how his daughter was enjoying herself, on the other hand he was skeptical that she was romping around with a MAN. When we later talked about the little girl, about her interests and what she's already able to do, at one point he said, “She's going to the monastery later anyway.” Although he smiled when he said it, he looked as if he only had half joked.

When I later told my girlfriend about this, I could only shake my head. I never wanted to be like that!

The daughter's honor defended - 4 months before she was born

My own protective instinct towards my daughter began four months before she was born. We were using fine ultrasound - the standard for high-risk pregnancies, and since my wife was over 35 at the time, ours was considered one of them. The first thing to do on this occasion is to check that everything is in order with the baby's organs. But the gender of the child should also be able to be determined in this way (our baby was shy at the previous appointments). This time we were lucky.

After a few seconds, the gynecologist zoomed in on a column and told us that this was our daughter's vagina. We would have a girl. My wife and I hugged for joy. After a few seconds of joy, however, I became increasingly stiff. The doctor was still looking at the genitals of my unborn daughter with great interest. Was this necessary? Wasn't it getting enough now? We knew now. My wife noticed my restlessness, looked at me and took my hand. Then the gynecologist started working on the baby's organs. But what was going on inside of me? Was that normal? For the first time my protective instinct towards my daughter had stirred in me. It shouldn't stay just one time ...

Our daughter Lilly was born a few months later and was doing well. She is now a little over a year old - my gold piece, happy and open-minded, the center of my life. However, Lilly is also very sociable and even smiles at strangers in the tram to get a reaction from them. I have told my wife many times that I hope I would find it nice if this behavior subsided a little as puberty approaches ...

Ambiguous photos amuse women, while fathers don't understand fun here

Finally, on the last Sunday afternoon, our babysitter was with Lilly at a party that was attended by many children. When we returned, the babysitter told us how much fun our little one had had. Immediately after arrival, an older boy (around 3 years old) would have lovingly looked after Lilly and played with her. She would have especially enjoyed crawling through his legs. The babysitter said she took photos and would send them to us. Later pictures came under the subject "not suitable for young people ;-)". In fact, in one of the photos, one could imagine something far less harmless than a baby crawling through the legs of a toddler (you can see the picture next door). My wife and the babysitter were delighted with the picture. I could laugh less ...

Where is all of this supposed to lead? I don't know what happened to me.

As a father, will I later drive away my daughter's admirers with the shotgun, as you know from comics ???

In the meantime I can't rule out anything ...

How about you other fathers? Have you already had similar experiences? We would be happy to receive your comments.