How do I seduce an INFJ man

Be aware of yourself

Each dominant function interacts with another function. C. G. Jung called this other function an "inferior function". It is also called the "fourth function" by some representatives of the MBTI model. It corresponds to the concept of shadow, which was also coined by C. G. Jung. For better understanding, I recommend thinking of the dominant and fourth functions as the two sides of a coin. They are inextricably linked, but cannot be viewed at the same time. In fact, the dominant and fourth functions in the brain are not active at the same time in consciousness. At best, they can be consciously applied one after the other. This means that the excessive application of the preferred dominant function automatically leads to the neglect of the equally important input of the fourth function.

But since both functions are necessary in the process of adaptation between the inner world and the outer world, neglecting the inferior function leads to a pressure to compensate for the psyche. Since the important input of the fourth function has been neglected for too long, the person concerned has difficulties in dealing with his environment or with his own needs.

This problem is viewed by the organism as an emergency, and countermeasures are initiated accordingly, over which the human being no longer has any conscious influence. The person concerned feels compelled to display behaviors that no longer belong to his self-image, which is shaped by the dominant function. Accordingly, this behavior feels strange to the person concerned, or it is viewed as an embarrassing slip-up.

Since the fourth function is generally neglected, it is also often underdeveloped, and accordingly the reactions it triggers are often awkward or, in the words of C. G. Jung, of archaic character. The affected person shows more typical behavior patterns of a dominant user of this fourth function, only that he is not as confident and practiced here. For example, Introverts Intuitive (INFJ and INTJ) tend to show the behavior of extraverted sensors (ESTP and ESFP). Although they are otherwise level-headed and planned and tend to deal with idealistic issues, they suddenly act spontaneously on all possible external stimuli, are easily distracted or overly concerned with discovering and enjoying material things.

If the inferior function leads to such atypical behavior, this is always a warning sign of an imbalance in the emotional balance, which should be an occasion to rethink old behavior. Every guy has certain strategies to create a balance in his mental household. As a rule, a well-developed second function contributes to rapid stabilization. For more information, I recommend reading Naomi Quenk, “Was that really me?” (Unfortunately only available in English).

A distinction must be made between the unconscious control of the inferior function and its conscious use. Many types like to use their fourth function when they are not exposed to any particular pressure in everyday life and experiment with the unfamiliar perspective that their fourth function enables them to see on the world. This often releases creative forces.

The following table shows which functions relate to each other and at the same time exclude them.

Dominant usersFunction <——–——-> functionDominant users
INTJ and INFJintroverted intuitionextraverted feelingESFP and ESTP
ISTJ and ISFJintroverted feelingextroverted intuitionENFP and ENTP
ESTJ and ENTJextraverted thinking introverted feelingINFP and ISFP
ESFJ and ENFJextraverted feelingintroverted thinkingINTP and ISTP
This post was published on by Sascha Faber in Blog, Type Theory. Keywords: inferior function, inferior function, personality, shadow, fourth function.